Gen Z's Guide to Making Small Talk in Any Situation

How to Make Small Talk in Different Situations Without Feeling Cringe

Whether you're stuck in an elevator, vibing at a house party, or trying not to spiral during a Zoom meeting, small talk is one of those social skills we all need—but barely anyone actually enjoys. For Gen Z, who grew up toggling between FaceTime and meme culture, the idea of talking about “the weather” with a stranger feels outdated and lowkey terrifying. But guess what? Small talk doesn't have to be boring or fake. It can be your secret weapon to make connections, ease awkwardness, and even open unexpected doors (networking is real, babes).

So, if you're trying to get better at those “sooo… what do you do?” convos without breaking into a sweat, this guide’s for you.

Small Talk IRL: Why It's Not as Fake as You Think

Okay, here’s the thing: small talk gets a bad rap. It’s often seen as shallow, but it’s actually how deeper convos start. You can’t just drop “what’s your biggest trauma?” five minutes into meeting someone. Small talk is like the social pre-game—it sets the tone, builds trust, and helps people feel safe enough to get real.

I used to dread small talk. As someone who’d rather text than call, I’d go into full “panic mode” when faced with networking mixers or family weddings. But once I realized it’s not about saying something smart—it’s about being human—I stopped overthinking it.

1. At Parties or Social Events

Vibe: Casual + Curious

You’re at a party, drink in hand, awkwardly staring at the snack table like it holds the meaning of life. We’ve all been there.

Go-to openers:

• “So how do you know the host?”
• “Have you tried this dip? It’s kinda fire.”
• “What’s your weekend vibe usually like—chill or chaotic?”

Pro tip: Compliments work. Notice someone’s cool shoes or earrings? Say something. It's an easy entry point that feels natural and doesn’t put pressure on either of you.

Real story: I once bonded with someone at a house party because we were both wearing Doc Martens. That led to a convo about ‘90s fashion, and now we swap thrift store hauls on Instagram. Small talk turned real talk.

2. At Work or Internships

Vibe: Professional-ish but still You

Work small talk is a different game. You want to keep it light, but not boring.

Try this instead of weather talk:

• “Any good coffee recs near the office?”
• “I loved that playlist someone had on in the break room—was that you?”
• “How long have you been in this role? What do you like about it?”

Zoom Edition: When it’s virtual, use what you see. Mention their cool background setup or a pet that walks on screen. Boom—connection made.

Quick tip: Mirror their energy. If they’re chatty, match that. If they’re reserved, don’t force it. Just toss a question out and see if it lands.

3. With Strangers (Waiting Rooms, Ubers, Elevators)

Vibe: Super Chill, Low Effort

You don’t have to talk to strangers, but sometimes those unexpected convos hit different.

Easy small talk here looks like:

• “Long day?”
• “This playlist’s got some bops.”
• “Ever been to this spot before?”

One time I struck up a convo in an Uber because the driver was blasting Frank Ocean. We ended up trading Spotify playlists and chatting about heartbreak songs. It was lowkey wholesome.

Safety reminder: Trust your gut. If it feels weird, you don’t have to engage.

4. On Dating Apps or First Dates

Vibe: Flirty + Fun + Low-Key Honest

Small talk on dating apps gets repetitive fast. So skip the “wyd” and lean into quirky or unique questions.

Fun convo-starters:

• “What’s your dream vacation with unlimited budget?”
• “What’s the weirdest food combo you love?”
• “If your life were a movie, what would the title be?”

IRL on a first date? Read the room. If they’re vibing with jokes, match that. If they want depth, ask “What’s something you’re passionate about that people might not expect?”

First date memory: I once asked a guy, “What’s your go-to comfort food when life sucks?” He said chicken tenders. Instant connection.

5. At School, College, or Orientation Events

Vibe: Relatable + Open

Whether it’s the first day of class or a campus mixer, everyone’s feeling awkward. So lean into that!

Try:

• “I’m pretending I know where I’m going—how about you?”
• “What’s the most random class you’ve taken so far?”
• “Have you figured out where the good coffee is on campus?”

Relatable moment: During freshman orientation, I bonded with my now-best friend because we both got lost trying to find the same building. Small talk > friendship unlocked.

6. With Family or Family Friends (aka the hardest sometimes)

Vibe: Polite + Strategic

Family reunions or dinners with your parents’ friends can feel like navigating a minefield of nosy questions. Steer the convo to safer, shared ground.

Try:

• “What’s something you wish you had done when you were my age?”
• “Seen any cool shows lately?”
• “If you could travel anywhere right now, where would you go?”

Hack: Ask them questions. People love to talk about themselves, especially if they’re used to giving you advice. Flip it back on them and sip your drink in peace.

Gen Z Small Talk Hacks

Think like a podcast host: Ask open-ended, weird-but-fun questions that let people talk about themselves.

Listen more than you talk: You don’t have to fill every silence. Sometimes the best moments happen between the lines.

Don’t force it: Not every convo needs to go deep. Sometimes it's just a vibe check.

Use memes or TikToks as icebreakers: Gen Z is fluent in pop culture—use that to your advantage.

Small talk isn’t about being impressive—it’s about being approachable. You never know when a throwaway convo turns into a real connection, a job lead, or even a friendship. So yeah, it might feel awkward at first, but with practice, it gets easier—and way more fun.

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